I drifted through the first 38 years of my life. I told myself I was happy, that I loved my job, and that life was good. But deep down, I knew I was lying to myself.

Then everything changed with one conversation.

"You know that money you owe me?"

"Yeah."

"Don't worry about paying it back."

Those words shattered my heart. They were my dad’s way of telling me he was going to die … soon.

He passed away in 2005, and nothing makes you question your existence more than losing someone you love. Not long after, I was walking through the same dull, grey office I trudged through every day when a voice inside me asked:

“Do you really want to keep living this life and risk dying young like your dad?

Are you truly happy?

Do you actually love your job?”

The answers hit me hard: NO.

I knew I wanted my life to be different, but I had no idea how to change. I felt like I’d drifted for 30 years, waiting for someone to show me the way. I wanted work that made me come alive—something that had me buzzing with excitement and joy. I wanted deep, meaningful connections with my family. I wanted to be comfortable in my own skin and feel proud of the person I was becoming.

But most of all, I wanted to live a life of meaning. I wanted to contribute to the world in a way that people would admire when my time was up.

At my dad’s funeral, people said incredible things about him. But I couldn’t help but wonder—what would people say about me? Would my life leave a legacy worth remembering?

That moment sparked a powerful realization: When you ask the right questions, you find the right answers. A week later, I hired my first coach, upgraded my mindset, and said goodbye to the life I no longer wanted.

And everything changed. I was only 38, but it wasn’t too late.

I threw myself into personal development and couldn’t get enough of it. I created an exciting vision for my future and found the motivation to chase my dreams for the very first time. I discovered work that had me buzzing with joy. I built deep, heartwarming connections with my family. I healed internal wounds and achieved a level of health I hadn’t experienced since childhood.

And, for the first time ever, I felt a sense of inner fulfilment that nothing could shake.

The transformation was so powerful that I couldn’t keep it to myself. I wanted to tell everyone what was possible for them if they did the same. Other people needed to hear that change was possible for them too. Without even realising it, I was discovering my purpose. I dove deep into studying Process-Oriented Coaching, NLP, Timeline Therapy, and High-Performance Leadership. I became a coach and started helping people transform their lives.

At the same time, the magnitude of my vision scared me. Who am I to think I can help people change? I’m no expert. What have I achieved in my life?

But then I reflected on how far I had come in such a short time. I reminded myself that coaching is my gift—it always has been. And so I refocused all my energy into helping as many people as I could. Because I learned something powerful:

When you find the right direction, build a vision, and commit to action, the universe conspires to help you. Life gets exciting again.

I now sit here, filled with joy and gratitude, thinking about all the wonderful clients I’ve helped over the years. My clients send me messages that warm my heart:

“Thank you. You’ve changed my life.”

And I remember that conversation with my dad—the moment I knew I needed to change my life. Today, I’m living my dream. I’m living my purpose—my soul’s purpose. I’m doing work I love and loving life. My mum is proud of me, and I know my dad would be too. But what fills me with the most pride is that I’m not just leaving a legacy; I’m inspiring my family to be their best every single day.

If you’re still on the path to finding your purpose, here’s what I’ve learned:

Keep going.

Do the inner work.

Live your dream.

You CAN find your genius, live your purpose, and change your world.