“I should have just said no!”

When you grew up feeling valued for helping people or keeping them happy, there will be times when people take advantage of you.

It will feel like you're being manipulated because others will prey on your giving nature. They'll expect you to do things for them, to bend over backward for them, drop everything for them and often with little thanks or recognition for your help and hard work

Help at your expense, mind you.

Eventually you get jack of it because there are only so many times you can go back to the well before it runs dry. You end up resenting people for it and when you step out of this role, through either sheer frustration or exhaustion, you find out how much people really valued the help you gave.

They either walk away and find someone else to be at their beck and call, or they come on the attack, accusing you of being selfish.

Selfish!? Really!?

For putting yourself first for looking after your immediate family.

Crazy, right?!

But this is what happens when you break free from the role you've played for most of your life, feeling responsible for other people's happiness.

You're not alone. This is a recurring theme for the sensitive, empathetic souls of this world.

Recently, I sent a survey out to a number of my past and current clients asking for feedback on the biggest pain point when they started with me and the most crucial thing they changed.

Many of them confirmed what I had already known. That they hated being taken advantage of or used, and they were so happy to have shifted the anxiety, depression, overwhelm, exhaustion and self-doubt that accompanied this behaviour for so many years.

It's not something that people master overnight.

You can shift the belief easily enough, but then you've got to take action to change the habit. This is when the real work starts and it is ongoing as you peel back deeper layers of this pattern. But as the Chinese proverb states,

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today.

Are you ready to start today?

If so, I encourage you to back yourself and start the process in my training next week -> https://www.facebook.com/groups/3321614348104378/

You will never regret improving yourself,

But you will regret not taking the action that your gut instincts encouraged you to take